The Farewell (2019) // A Family Battle Between Two Cultures

The Farewell Review // An Ultimate Guide For Chinese Learners

If you were dying, would you want to know?

This is the question that sits at the heart of the 2019 hit film, The Farewell.

During awards season, this bilingual emotional rollercoaster, starring Awkwafina, picked up some top international awards, including the Golden Globe for Best Actress.

Although American-made, The Farewell is actually a bilingual film, with the majority of the film being in Mandarin.

This makes it a great choice for Chinese learners and sad film lovers alike!

The Farewell Review – Introduction

The Farewell Review – Main Characters

The Farewell Review – Why it’s Great for Chinese Learners

The Farewell Review – Useful Vocab

The Farewell Review – Where to Watch

The Farewell Review – Introduction

The Farewell is a comedy-drama film written and directed by Lulu Wang ( Play 王子逸 wáng zǐyì).

“Based on an actual lie”, the film draws from the events of Wang’s own life.

The Chinese title is Play 别告诉她 (bié gàosù tā) which literally means don’t tell her.

The film follows a Chinese-American family who find out that their grandmother ( Play 奶奶 nǎinai) has terminal lung cancer and only has a few months left to live.

They decide not to tell her and instead organise a family gathering so that they can say goodbye.

The main protagonist is Billi, who as a Chinese-American struggles to come to terms with the idea that not telling her grandmother about her illness is for the best.

Billi’s character is based on Wang herself. Make sure to keep watching until the credits appear to find out about Wang’s real-life Nai Nai.

The Farewell Review – Main Characters

As there are quite a lot of main characters in The Farewell, getting your head around them all can be a little confusing – especially because in Chinese there are so many different words to describe family members!

You can easily get a bit muddled trying to figure out how everyone is related.

Luckily for you, we’re about to make things a lot easier, you can see a list of the main characters and their relationship to protagonist Billi below:

Billi ( Play 比莉 bǐlì) – Played by actress Awkwafina ( Play 林家珍 lí njiā zhēn) she is the main protagonist of the film.

Billi was originally born in China but moved to America with her family when she was 6 years old. Despite this, she has still maintained a close relationship with her Grandma.

Did you know Awkwafina won a Best Actress Golden Globe for her performance in The Farewell making her the first woman of Asian descent to win one!

The first of Billi’s family members we are introduced to in the film:

• Haiyan Wang ( Play 王海燕 wáng hǎiyàn) – Billi’s father.
• Lu Jian ( Play 陆建 lù jiàn) – Billi’s mother.
• Grandma ( Play 奶奶 nǎinai) – Billi’s paternal grandmother.
• Little Grandma ( Play 小奶奶 xiǎo nǎinai) – Billi’s great aunt ( Play 姨奶奶 yínǎinai), Nai Nai’s younger sister. This role is actually played by director Wang’s real great aunt, Lu Hong ( Play 卢红 Lú hóng) who is effectively playing herself in the film.

Other family members:

• Haibin ( Play 海滨 hǎibīn) – Haiyan’s older brother, Billi’s uncle (伯伯 bóbo)
• Hao Hao ( Play 浩浩 hào hào) – Haibin’s son, Billi’s cousin ( 堂弟 táng dì)
• Aiko ( Play 爱子 ài zǐ ) – Hao Hao’s Japanese fiancée
• Ling Shen ( Play 玲婶 Líng shěn) – Haibin’s wife, Billi’s aunt through marriage ( Play 伯母 bómǔ)
• Yu Ping ( Play 玉萍 yù píng) – Nai Nai’s niece (侄女 zhínǚ), everyone calls her Auntie (姑姑 gūgū) even though she isn’t sisters with Haiyan and Haibin.
• Little Bao ( Play 小宝 xiǎo bǎo) – Yu Ping’s son

The Farewell Review – Why it’s Great for Chinese Learners

This is a good starter film for those who are perhaps intimidated by watching a full film in Chinese with no English subtitles.

With about 70% of the film being in Mandarin, it is definitely the main language, and naturally brings with it plenty of Chinese practice.

However, English can help bring context and a welcome break for your brain in between the Chinese dialogue.

Speaking of mixing languages, don’t forget to check out our half-English, half-Chinese podcast 50五十！

To get the most out of Chinese learning with The Farewell we’d recommend watching the film with only Chinese subtitles. The Chinese dialogue in the film really isn’t too complicated at all.

In the film Billi actually speaks English as her first language and her Mandarin isn’t fluent so quite a lot of basic grammar structures are used.

This is great as it means a lot of the dialogue is quite easy to understand, even for those whose Mandarin is at a more elementary level.

Take this conversation for instance between Billi and a porter at a hotel when she arrives:

Porter: Play 你是从国外来的? Nǐ shì cóng guówài lái de?
Billi: Play 是 Shì
Porter: Play 哪个国家？ Nǎge guójiā?
Billi: Play 美国 Měiguó
Porter: Play 美国？你看着也不像是美国人。为什么回来？ Měiguó? Nǐ kànzhe yě bù xiàng shì měiguó rén. Wèishéme huílái?
Billi: Play 婚礼 Hūnlǐ
Porter: Play 谁的呀？ Shéi de ya?
Billi: Play 我的堂弟的。 Wǒ de táng dì de.
Porter: Play 喔堂弟。他也是从美国回来的？ Ō táng dì. Tā yěshì cóng měiguó huílái de?

Translation:
Porter: Have you come from abroad?
Billi: Yes.
Porter: Which country?
Billi: America
Porter: America? You don’t look like an American. Why have you come back?
Billi: Wedding
Porter: Whose
Billi: My cousin’s.
Porter: Oh your cousin’s. Is he also returning from America?

Along with being a good film to learn Chinese this show also offers lots of valuable insights into Chinese culture. Especially relating to family and how traditions and customs compare to the West.

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The Farewell Review – Useful Vocab

Although a lot of the vocabulary in the show is mostly more basic, everyday vocabulary, some more technical words do pop up in the film.

This is especially true when talking about Nai Nai’s health. So here is a list of some useful vocab to know:

• Play 院 yīyuàn – hospital
• Play 医生 yīshēng – doctor
• Play 癌症 áizhèng – cancer
• Play 病症 bìngzhèng – illness, disease
• Play 良性阴影 liángxìng yīnyǐng – benign shadow (a term invented by Lu Hong, not an actual medical term)
• Play 专家 zhuānjiā – specialist
• Play 药 yào – medicine
• Play 维生素 wéishēngsù – vitamin
• Play 肺 fèi – lung

You’re encouraged to list more vocabularies to know in Chinese as your comment.

Along with the vocabulary about health, here are some other useful words that appear in the film which you might not know:

• Play 婚礼 hūnlǐ – wedding
• Play 团聚 tuánjù – reunion
• Play 龙虾 lóngxiā – lobster
• Play 螃蟹 pángxiè – crab
• Play 扭扭捏捏 niǔ niǔniē niē – affecting shyness or embarrassment
• Play 傻 shǎ – stupid, foolish
• Play 怀孕 huáiyùn – pregnancy, to be pregnant
• Play 弹钢琴 tán gāngqín – play the piano
• Play 教堂 jiàotáng – church

The Farewell Review – Where to Watch

You can pay to watch The Farewell on YouTube, this is a great platform for watching Chinese shows like this as you can choose the option of only having Chinese subtitles.

It’s also available to buy or rent on Amazon and other paid streaming sites.

As a relatively new film, it hasn’t yet become available on Netflix.

It can also be watched on some Chinese streaming platforms, however you’ll need to search for the Chinese title Play 别告诉她 .

Interested in learning more about Chinese wedding traditions? Have a look at our blog and watch the video below of our Marketing man Max making a speech at a Chinese wedding!

The Farewell – FAQ’s

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